Getting Started - OF, Sugar Babying and Everything In Between - What Worked, What Didn't

In the beginning when I use to first think about adult content as a private creator, my mind would go to the amateur videos of porn hub. I never looked into anything or gave much thought beyond.

The Only Fans Craze

The first time I really was ever really exposed to the idea of creating adult content as a individual was when Only Fans started to become popular. Id heard about the platform in passing, guys at parties talking about girls they knew, that kind of thing, but didn't give it much thought. It was a while later when I about this story that had gone viral about a mom who got exposed and her kids expelled from their catholic school. Turns out she was making something like 150k a month from her subscribers. It all was very scandalous. That's when I realized it wasn't just a platform to flaunt your body, it was a real money generator. Now we see celebrities like Bella Thorn, Cardi B and all kinds of influencers jumping onto the OF bandwagon. This was before that. When it was still very taboo and labelled as something low class girls did, selling nudes for $10. Which wasn't the case. It seemed to just have gotten a bad rap. In my little world and what I know of it anyway. 

Que The Desperation

But still, l didn't start when i realized what it really was, still wasn't that desperate enough to grow some balls yet.  I was doing pretty well for myself, after years of hard work I was finally creating a sustainable future for me and my girls. Then Covid happened. 

Crazy how quickly things can change, remember that. Everything can be taken away in an instant. 

Crazy how quickly things can change, remember that. Everything can be taken away in an instant. After being on EI for a couple months, and subsequently being cut off when I started working, I still wasn't making enough to avoid the eviction threats from my apartment. No matter what I did, I couldn't bring in enough money. My landlord was losing patience and I was months behind, I was officially desperate.

I began researching how to start an only fans, one of the first you tube videos I saw was for some well known influencer/creator on you tube. I wanted to see what sort of content she posted so I subscribed. Only to find out she posted a selfie completely covered about once a week and the rest of her posts were other OF creators who paid to have her promote them. Total scam. 

I kept digging and finally I came across a creator explaining how she got started. She was a faceless creator that went by Midwest Emma or Emma Clair. She was the fuel that fed my fire. She was successful, faceless and had amazing content. I followed her and subscribed to her platform and learned everything I could from her.

Becoming A Faceless Creator

While I still maintained hiding my identity in public as a faceless creator, I didn't hide it from many people in my circle. And to be clear, absolutely no shade to anyone who shows their face or exposes themselves more publicly. More balls than me. But lets not ignore the fact that being found out does, in fact, affect your life. I had kids. I worked in a sector where I could likely be fired for this sort of thing. It affects your romantic and family relationships. Whether its fair or nor, its just a fact. 

So I continued trying to get subscribers through some of my circle, thirsty guys on my snapchat that had been there since the beginning of time, that sort of thing. I wasn't getting much traction. Not only is the industry saturated with free content, being a faceless creator gave me a disadvantage, not having an edge or unique angle, even more so. I wasn't goth, a gamer or cosplayer, I didn't have a partner or a friend to collaborate. I'll be honest, I was about as basic as they come. Even Midwest Emma is known for her farming, hunting, country girl content. And very creative. My content wasn't very creative and I wasn't very imaginative. 

Exploring Other Possibilities

While I was trying to get subscribers, I decided to try a few other things. Sugar babying through a popular site was one of the first things I'd heard about. I had gone on a few paid dates but realized it was not worth the time and effort involved. It was hard to find genuine connections that were willing to compensate fro your time. All the effort just felt like a waste of time. While some girls have had success, I unfortunately didn't. And I wont lie, I'm no 10 and often wondered if this was a contributing factor. I'm not ugly by any means haha, but I find I'm a pretty homely, ordinary girl. But if your a young, hot, bombshell and willing to show your face, you may have better luck!

I did expand and tried going through a cam site to do live camming to build an audience but hated it. I hated that I felt so exposed, sure someone I knew would find me. I hated that most of the guys in there were there for a free show. After about 6 hours of camming I made roughly $50. Pay out was only after a minimum $100. I ate the cost and quit. 

There was also a short period of time where I also tried to sell my underwear on a site, was similar to the only fans experience, I wasn't offering anything unique and without a fan base already, I wasn't getting much interest.

Finally A Break Through

I cant remember where I first heard it, through a friend or Twitter maybe, but it came to my attention to post private video chats on the “classifieds” of the internet. The places where you would typically find escorts. This is where things changed for me. 

After I posted my first ad, I got responses almost immediately. My first night I made $200. That was all I needed. It quickly became my main source of income. I had a couple regulars, one of them spending $800 on a 2.5 hour show. It wasn't even all sexual, some of these men just need some companionship and have money to burn. 

All This Is To Say

I guess I want to finish this off by saying, I think your own personal success will be based on what your comfortable with, how much your willing to expose yourself and how risky your willing to be. I was a mom, I had set boundaries about the risk levels and exposure I was willing to take on personally. Id never judge another mom or woman for doing things differently, but this was me.

For me, I was finally making enough to pay my rent and bills, and managed to save enough to replace my repossessed vehicle, all within 6 months. After 6 months of trying (and failing) to get my Only fans and other avenues going. Once I had my vehicle, I was able to expand my secular work prospects, which was the original goal. I quit and focused on building a career that I wanted my future husband to be proud of. I swore I'd take this experience to the grave. 

I'm slowly being squeezed out of my own life while approaching 40

But its now 6 years later facing the financial pinch, I'm pissed off. Not desperate. Just raging at the system. I just recently got a $0.49 cent raise, I only noticed because my salaried pay deposit for the past 2 weeks went up $10. My rent however went up $200 for the month. Nevermind the year before and the one before that. I'm realizing my situation is getting worse and worse with each passing year despite working harder and harder. I'm slowly being squeezed out of my own life while approaching 40. Never taken a family vacation, much less saved a dime for retirement. I don't have a partner to lean on, no family to bail me out. So here we are, starting round 2.

I guess I started this page as a way to channel the frustration, maybe inspire someone, not entirely sure of the direction to be honest. I'm sure this page will evolve on its own. For now, its my own little diary, no one knows, no one in my circle this time. My own little secret. It can be a lot to carry alone.

As always, would love to hear your feedback, comments or questions! Thanks for reading!

Xoxo

Katelynn